Published on Nov 22, 2016
Busy, busy, busy that was Debbie Hayes until a chance accident gave her the perfect opportunity to pause and reflect. In this talk Debbie explores our modern world where technological transactions and the need for instant gratification are replacing even our most fundamental values and connections. But is it possible to achieve a balance of success without sacrifice and what are the costs?

Debbie Hayes has enjoyed a diverse career background including water engineering, brick manufacturing and telecommunications. A proud single mother and chocoholic Debbie is now a self-employed business coach with a mission to help large organisations, small business owners and individuals achieve success without sacrifice.
In the wake of her accident and using her own philosophies on work life balance Debbie created her own business with the emphasis on being able to spend more time with her son.

This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
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Steve Jacob7 months ago
A really useful reminder that we all should take time to stop and think. This gives us more opportunity to run our lives proactive rather than reactive manner, and make better connections with others as well.

I do like ice cream and popcorn, but I certainly have a different view about both now!

Wonderful talk, Debbie, well done!
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Debbie Hayes
Debbie Hayes7 months ago
Thank you for your comments Steve. There is so much value to be gained from taking time out to stop and think and take proactive actions, aligned with what we really want.

It's funny how my stories referencing popcorn and the icecream stick in people's mind. Hopefully they will act as reminders of my talk and act as a prompt to step back and reconnect.
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Marten Dekker
Marten Dekker4 days ago (edited)
Debbie Hayes : Teaching thru stories had been used for thousands & thousands of years, BECAUSE we remember best thru stories. This is because a story is a timeline & a web with many connections . The web & connections make it easily findable thru several points / references, ( informational & EMOTIONAL ones ) versus trying to find a memory in our brain with only one fact with no links to search for.
My excelling self defense instructor, when teaching his starting weekend course, spends more time on stories than drills. This gives people the biggest improvement in real world skill & execution, that's possible in 2 days. Because we remember stories.
You are also using unique / unusual visuals & metaphors...to create ideas & memories that stick & are easily recallable. ( book: Super Learning by a Bulgarian scientist / psychotherapist, Georgi Lozanov, has valuable techniques to increase the amount & longterm retention of presentations )( I'm familiar with his work, haven't looked at the newer " Super Learning 2000" book by different authors. ) That's very effective & smart of you. You're AWESOME. You are doing really important work. & looking beautiful doing it. ( not necessary... still, cool.) 👍
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Comma Sense Limited
Comma Sense Limited8 months ago
Well done on such a fantastic talk. Your words really resonated with me Debbie. We are rapidly losing the art of conversation to phones, tablets and other devices. We need to stop, think, put our devices and other distractions to one side, and spend quality time with those who are important to us.
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Debbie Hayes
Debbie Hayes8 months ago
Thank you, great to hear it resonated with you. I hope you find it makes a difference to you as you implement this perspective.
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Maggie Hollinshead
Maggie Hollinshead8 months ago
Superb talk Debbie, a really powerful message and one I whole heartedly share. As you say technology and social media play a very important and useful part in our modern lives, but this really should not be at the cost of real social interaction, family values and the very personal skills that enable us to connect with each other. I will be recommending your talk to others, well done x
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Debbie Hayes
Debbie Hayes8 months ago
That is wonderful to hear Maggie, thank you. There is so much to gain if we can let go of the need to be busy and nurture the connections we have. Sadly many people don't believe it's even possible, but I've seen such transformations in my clients when they adopted my time management ethos and techniques. The benefit isn't just seen at work, a whole ripple effect cascades into their family, teams and the increased sense of self confidence, happiness and fulfillment is so wonderful to see.
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Ze Bunker
Ze Bunker1 hour ago
Dress is way too small for that size of girl.
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K Bhogal
K Bhogal1 day ago
Bad dress choice!!! Very distracting. Please buy a mirror and clothes that flatter your body. This dress shows every lump and bump.
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Schahrzad Morgan
Schahrzad Morgan1 day ago
You're confidence and professionalism mixed with sexiness is a great inspiration. I love your boldness in wearing such a flattering dress. Often I judge women I see, but in your case I just marveled at your beauty, and I'm a straight woman. Super hot!! I like the concept of mixing hot with brains.
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Dr John Pollard
Dr John Pollard4 days ago
Where is that accent from. I hear a hint of Aussie, but I'm guessing maybe NZ/UK as well.
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cyc7lops
cyc7lops5 days ago
The speaker confirms what I've always believed: that working fewer hours with more time to spend on self (sleep, exercise, hobbies/interests), home (homemaking and all that that entails to have a clean, organized, well-run home with time to plan, shop for, and prepare nutritious meals), and others (children, spouse, friends, community) improves the physical and mental health and quality of life for all involved. The speaker's solution was to set up her own business with reduced work hours. Great for her and a lucky few! But that's not a realistic option for most people with a mortgage or rent, car payment, mandatory skyrocketing health insurance premiums (with no cost controls in the US), etc. Most people need a steady job with benefits, not a precarious situation with unpredictable income and a high failure rate. Unfortunately, if you do the math, with expected work hours in the U.S. of even 40 hrs/week, let alone the 50-60+ expected of professionals, it's simply impossible to accomplish this blissful balance. The answer is shorter standard workweeks of 30 hours or less. With automation expected to cause mass unemployment worldwide within the decade, this is an ideal time for all countries to have conversations around guaranteed minimum incomes, 30 hour or less workweeks WITHOUT reduction in salaries, and single payer universal healthcare that includes financial protection for all citizens as well as dental, vision, hearing, podiatric care, etc. (all the things that the elderly and everyone else needs but that cruelly aren't included in the US Medicare system). I'm glad for the speaker, but becoming an entrepreneur is not a viable solution for most. Many of the Ted Talk speakers on various subjects propose entrepreneurialism as "the solution," and it's just not a realistic option for most. The majority of people have no desire to pay the cost of being too busy -- we know the terrible toll that it takes -- but that's the price that employers demand in exchange for employment. In the US you really have only two choices: massive amounts of uncompensated overtime (for salaried professionals), or unemployment. That's it. You're no longer going to accept it? The door is that way...
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Bojan Kotur
Bojan Kotur6 days ago
I'm addicted to checking my mobile phone.
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nw8000
nw80001 week ago (edited)
How did you find a business to do? Where did you get advice on what kind of business to start without killing oneself?
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contrafax
contrafax1 week ago
Excuse me? How many likes I get is much more important than feeding my kids or spending time with my wife.
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Joelleen Beanks
Joelleen Beanks1 week ago
I am a biologician. Nope this doesnt work
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Stitchscape
Stitchscape9 months ago
Fabulous talk Debbie. It rings so true with my beliefs. Infact my own business is focused on trying to give like minded people a proper space to meet and connect with others, so that they feel that sense of belonging. People inspiring others is so key to that connection value. Success without sacrifice whilst making valuable connections is powerful and not 'just' a talk. It's a way of life we should definitely aspire to. Thanks.
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Debbie Hayes
Debbie Hayes9 months ago
Thank you for your fabulous comments. It's great to hear that you have focussed your own business in this way.

Success without sacrifice is indeed possible and a prinicple I hope to share far and wide to allow us all to leave a new landscape for the next generation.

Too busy for productivity | Carlin Daharsh | ; 9:05 min.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jd3_J-J6fsc
Published on Sep 5, 2014
This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. While she was finishing up her high school career Carlin realized she had been so busy, she had no idea how she ever had time to have a little fun or truly give her full attention to everything that she was involved in. Carlin’s talk is about just that: being busy versus being productive.

Carlin is a freshman at Nebraska Wesleyan University. While she was finishing up her high school career she realized had been so busy, she had no idea how she ever had time to have a little fun or truly give her full attention to everything that she was involved in.

About TEDx, x = independently organized event In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)
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Tyler Waite
Tyler Waite1 year ago
I'm 90% sure that this TEDx talk is also a slam poem
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Kirby Williamson
Kirby Williamson1 year ago
RIGHT!!???!!
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Zafoshin
Zafoshin6 months ago
30% sure?
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William Laffin
William Laffin1 year ago
i really wanted to like this 'speech', but while enamoured with the meter of her prose, i found the message fell flat, smothered with partial cliches and dangling simile's that only revealed she spent too much time memorizing the words, and too little time thinking about whether they made salient points. A succinct message on how to be efficient vs busy, productive vs proliferate would have made a lot more sense. In a phrase, this speech was 'too' busy.
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Nyameko De Bruin
Nyameko De Bruin1 month ago
come on just like the damn video
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arafat rasool
arafat rasool1 month ago
haha
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Todd Matthews
Todd Matthews1 year ago
"Carlin is a freshman at Nebraska Wesleyan University." ...she's a FRESHMAN?!?! ...wow, can that young woman speak. Great message and already a very skilled speaker. Remember her name. She is destined for greatness!
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Frank D.
Frank D.1 year ago
That hit the spot. Going to spend some time with my daughter :-)
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Frank Johansen
Frank Johansen2 years ago
Nice speech, but you are being busy not productive :)
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ZelenoJabko
ZelenoJabko1 year ago
Jesus. Typical chick talk. Spoke for 10 minutes, not really made any point.
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ZelenoJabko
ZelenoJabko1 year ago
No. The content density is non existent. I could say the same in 20 seconds.
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Unpolished Pearl
Unpolished Pearl3 months ago (edited)
"chick talk"? this talk really is no good, but have you heard the other women on this channel?
look up the talk about sexism.
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Sukruti Makwana
Sukruti Makwana11 months ago
"DIE WITH MEMORIES, Not Dreams"
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Tyrant60
Tyrant6010 months ago
Thats an amazing quote! Who said it?
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Tyrant60
Tyrant6010 months ago
Oh NVM just heard it from her!
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Cabdullaahi Bootaan
Cabdullaahi Bootaan2 years ago
This push me... I'm trying to do change NOW! Thanks Carlin
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Tyrant60
Tyrant6010 months ago
Wow! Kudos,

Very well rehearsed.
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Widia ningsih
Widia ningsih1 year ago
one leg at the time
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Calvin Coolidge
Calvin Coolidge1 year ago
So her big dream is to be a busy-body? i.e. "be a catalyst for change in her district". Please go back to sports and leave us alone.
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Vishal Raina
Vishal Raina4 months ago (edited)
good, you have the potential, next time be simple and direct. I learned it from somewhere that "scientist can create a complicated theory but it's the job of communicator to make it simple."
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mtgliquidations
mtgliquidations1 year ago
Excellent talk. Well done :-)
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Marissa R.
Marissa R.2 years ago
Excellent. She found the key. It's about results, not activity.
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downbntout
downbntout2 years ago
Disjointed thoughts, jumbled together, could not follow. A formalized way of finishing a series of sentences, distracting. I kept thinking 'what did those 2-3 things strung into a sentence have to do with each other?' Ms. Daharsh mentioned people being known for one great thing, okay, but a moment later she said 'no one is just a mom, just a this, just a that...'
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Javier Arellano
Javier Arellano1 year ago
Yup. Awful speech.
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nw8000
nw80005 days ago
Hot
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Kristen Marie
Kristen Marie3 months ago
This is great! Thank you for sharing this!
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Terrance Upham
Terrance Upham4 months ago
data dump complete
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Zes
Zes8 months ago
wrong, not stressful anxioux etc. idts
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Art Maknev
Art Maknev9 months ago
I'm busy to pay my bills...
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Didivs Ivlianvs
Didivs Ivlianvs1 year ago
People who want to be a catalyst for change f*ck the most stuff up. A catalyst changes everything but itself and that is the problem.
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Emanuel Mendez
Emanuel Mendez1 year ago
she's pretty damn annoying, gonna stick with the homie tony blair lol
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Zzz H
Zzz H1 year ago
Thanx sis☺especially when you said (a mom)!
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Daulton Baird
Daulton Baird1 year ago
Zuck's wife dresses him
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fisher lee
fisher lee1 year ago
Focus rather than portfolio, same as Peter Thiel
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Beautiful Realist
Beautiful Realist2 years ago
This speech does not include Ryan Seacrest.
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Dasha Ugryumova
Dasha Ugryumova2 years ago
Great video!
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Ngoc Nguyen
Ngoc Nguyen2 years ago
I like her speaking style. She is sooo talented.
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Isabella J
Isabella J2 years ago
Great words! Thank you. Nice dress by the way :)
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Tyler Baker
Tyler Baker2 years ago
Amazing, truly amazing.
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logicalPick
logicalPick2 years ago
Bravo
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Funandconsciousness
Funandconsciousness2 years ago
Carlin, good message passionately delivered. Keep seeking to reach more "ordinary" people who REALLY need to hear this.

When you feel the need to speed up, slow down | Kimi Werner; 20:02 min.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SFU_n1bSyyU
Published on Dec 29, 2014
This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. We often think of extreme athletes as fast-moving and quick-thinking. Champion freediver and spearfisher Kimi Werner explains how actually, sometimes slowing down is the key to survival in the deep.

Maui born and raised champion spearfisher and freediver, artist and chef-hunter.

At any given time, there’s a good chance you’ll find Kimi Werner packing her bags for a new adventure—on land or in the sea. Whether she’s mingling with people from different cultures, learning about an area’s natural resources or hitching a ride on the dorsal fin of a great white shark, the perennial globetrotter, freediver and spearfisher is always on the move.

Born and raised on Maui, Kimi fostered a deep connection to her island home at a very early age. This intrinsic bond with nature became a guiding force in her life, leading her to follow in her father’s footsteps and take up spearfishing and freediving. Renowned for her remarkable ability to hold her breath for more than four minutes to reach depths of over 150 feet, Kimi won every category she entered at the 2008 U.S. National Spearfishing Championships in the dark waters off Newport, Rhode Island. Today, she continues to inspire others as an ambassador of nature, accomplished chef and professional artist who embodies the heart and soul of simple and sustainable living.

About TEDx, x = independently organized event In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)
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Dennis Nakashima
Dennis Nakashima1 year ago
Awesome attitude! It's not about winning, it's about being who you are.
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Kaoutar Daoudi
Kaoutar Daoudi2 years ago
Thank you kimi I really needed to hear this especially at this time , one of the best ted talks ever because I could truly hear it from the bottom of your heart
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Gary Cacciola
Gary Cacciola2 years ago
Beautiful talk Kimi! As in everything you do...meaningful, respectful, eloquent, precise and slow! Fantastic! Thank You!
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Zach Vieira
Zach Vieira2 years ago
Responsible hunting is a very important concept.
There has to be a respect for the environment and ecosystem, but we people need our protein as well. Until the day that protein pills are airdropped to every country in the world, there will be a need for hunting animals.

Beautiful message, wonderful speaker, I am very glad to have watched this :-)
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GreenStorm01
GreenStorm019 months ago
Nothing but admiration.
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Francois Taljaard
Francois Taljaard2 years ago
Last year I had my first Great White encounter. It was a shore dive about 100m from the shore. The water looked similar to you describing your first spear competition, layers of green and brown water and a clean bottom. The shark approached me from behind at the bottom around 10m, as I swam up to the surface I kept a distance of 1m between us just close enough so I can see it at all times. Once on the surface I swam with it and then it disappeared, I got my bearings and started to race for the shore, I remember watching a video of someone else’s encounter and thinking I should slow down, I was in a state of panic with only 2-3 m visibility. As I stopped kicking and looked back the shark was approaching me, I was lucky enough to have my speargun between us and I swam towards it screaming. It casually swam away and I got to the shore unharmed, videos like this really helped me to take control of the situation. Great talk.
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Chris Walker
Chris Walker1 year ago
probably one of my favourite Ted Talks of all time
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São Paulo para Turistas
São Paulo para Turistas6 months ago
Chris Walker me 2
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Adero Prescott
Adero Prescott1 year ago
What a beautiful life you live. Doing exactly what you desire to do and changing your mind and being absolutely yourself.
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Rajiv Sharma
Rajiv Sharma1 year ago
awesome straight from the heart presentation in the process teaching great lesson of life by actually living it what ever she wants to share
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Coreys Stuff
Coreys Stuff2 years ago
excellent! Amazing story!
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Sandra Lee
Sandra Lee2 years ago
Loved her!
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Katie younis
Katie younis2 years ago
great :)
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Emperor Palpatine
Emperor Palpatine1 year ago
Watching this at 2x playback speed
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Fitness Anytime Anywhere
Fitness Anytime Anywhere1 year ago
What you were "taught" was progress and success, may not be what makes you happy.
Try and find your version of progress and success... not societies
PEACE <3 ;)
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Elena Blume
Elena Blume2 years ago
Outstanding!
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Jeffrey Honda
Jeffrey Honda2 years ago
I can't say how inspiring this video is to me at this moment in my life. I have the utmost respect for Kimi that she was able to reach inside herself and extrapolate what her priorities had turned into and what she needed to do to turn that around. Amazing speech!
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Henry Lau
Henry Lau1 year ago
Kimmy you are a true inspiration and thanks for sharing your wisdom.
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Jesse VK Nedunuri
Jesse VK Nedunuri1 year ago
Wow! I love you KIMI WERNER
I don't have words to describe how inspiring is your talk #SALUTE Ma'am
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Santhosh Varma
Santhosh Varma1 year ago
Kimmy, This is awesome that when you need to speed up, Slow down.👌
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Intake.Me
Intake.Me1 year ago
"When you feel the need to speed up, slow down." Love.
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Sorc Erer
Sorc Erer1 year ago (edited)
I like Kimi's guts, and her story, and I can see that it's grown organically from her own upbringing. I am not sold on violence towards animals though, nor that spearing fish is the best way forward for all beings involved. Right now we have a world where there is too much violence towards animals, and individual hunters don't actually balance out an already severely tilted ecosystem.

To be very clear, I think Kimi is offering a potential remedy to redress such a tilt, and responsible hunters like her aren't the reason for why we have a tilted ecosystem. Factory farming, is probably one of the key culprits there, as well a whole range of human greed driven practices.

That said, I think a responsible hunting campaign isn't the best remedy. Right now grassroots campaigns to promote vegetarian living that is all natural is much more effective. Just my two cents, and I still think Kimi has her heart in the right place. Certainly her message of slowing down when we feel the need to speed up is on point.
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iDontbreakPS3
iDontbreakPS32 years ago
Porn voice
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ms ho
ms ho1 year ago
Philosophical.
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Nazareth Sander
Nazareth Sander1 year ago
Nature is the purest path to self discovery and enlightenment not mention protecting the natural world for future generations.
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Free Spear
Free Spear1 year ago
Speeding up is crucial in many situations. Slowing down is too sometimes but either way it's really bad advice to generically apply one of the two. To arbitrarily say is it's only "natural" to speed up when a person should not is completely false. I don't. Alot of people I know don't. How about not automatically changing the rate in the first place? Why assume a reaction of any kind is natural? If anything being in control of yourself in the first place is the natural response in my humble opinion. Losing control, panic, responding illogically, these are taught/learned behaviours and hallmarks of mental instability.
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The Globalist
The Globalist1 year ago
Dumb bitch thinks she's in touch with life... ANIMALS ARE NOT FOOD.
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Ichor Gold
Ichor Gold1 year ago
In a way, so are you. #Cannibalism #LegalizeHumansForFood (So you're saying that because animals can be eaten, they should be? With that logic that means we should eat humans. Modern day animal farming is sick, and is in no way ethical. Cannibalism is just as sick as what a single animal goes through in those slaughterhouses. Learn what you eat. The world would be better off if you didn't exist. Just fucking end your life, because you are just the same as a single animal. I hope a lion eats you. Alive.
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superdidom84
superdidom8411 months ago
I completely agree, we should be allowed to eat vegans!
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Jhun Gestiada
Jhun Gestiada9 months ago
so inspiring....one of the best...the message is so simple and yet...
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Matilda Sims
Matilda Sims1 year ago
I come back and back to watch this video. Grounding stuff, thanks Kimmy :)
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São Paulo para Turistas
São Paulo para Turistas6 months ago
Matilda Sims me 2
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JeanMarie Williams
JeanMarie Williams1 year ago
Kia Orana from Manihiki Kimi
Well done we are part of this vast ocean Te Moana Nui O Kiva
Take Care and Stay Safe
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Bastian Calderon
Bastian Calderon9 months ago
so are we from rapa Nui, te Moana Nui A Kiva...the great blue of Kiva (Hiva) greetings
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Sam TN
Sam TN2 weeks ago
what if she swam with shark again??
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Suzanne Scott
Suzanne Scott3 weeks ago
This is a great talk and answers a lot of important questions. Peace and love to you.
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Cliff Etzel
Cliff Etzel3 weeks ago
HTH can this video have 29 thumbs down as of Aug 2, 2017!? SERIOUSLY??? Kimi truly is well grounded, centered and humble with a beautiful soul... Truly impactful presentation for me
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Péter Szántó
Péter Szántó3 weeks ago
I was just looking for a video about slow life and I found a real treasure. Kimi, your story is awesome! I froze when I saw you diving with a shark. I think the same about the way you speak about your experiences. It's so natural and true!
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Barry Bliss
Barry Bliss1 month ago
Wow. She's pretty awesome.
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Momsroc Limited
Momsroc Limited1 month ago
What a beautiful soul! That was awesome!
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Portugal InsideOut
Portugal InsideOut2 months ago
I loved your speech
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Hope but you can call me CaPoDiTuTtiCaPi311
Hope but you can call me CaPoDiTuTtiCaPi3113 months ago
awesome. just awesome.
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Tomasz Brzozowski
Tomasz Brzozowski3 months ago
I can't even imagine what kind of people are those that did not like this video message.... what is really impressive to them?
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Michael Roy
Michael Roy3 months ago
Great Speech
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Jad Fadel
Jad Fadel4 months ago
amazing speech, amazing story.
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Kahfi Alghifari
Kahfi Alghifari4 months ago
thank you
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